In light of making positive changes in my life, I’m going to try and capture some of the bits of wisdom and things that make a difference in my attitude toward life.
- Do not be jealous of relationships people you know have with other people you know. I’m not talking about romantic relationships, I’m talking about friendships. Enjoy what you have, and if you’re not happy with how it is, make it better! Invite people to join you for doing fun things, write encouraging things to others, make a point of including someone who is not often included.
- If you are unhappy, do not expect others to notice/fix your problems/have an obligation to correct the situation. You need to communicate the hard things in your life with people close to you. How can anyone help if they can’t see? If you don’t want to share what is bothering you with others, do something about it to counteract the situation.
- It is never a mistake to be warm and friendly. Who cares what people think? What are they going to do, think you’re nuts for being nice?! If you have Christ in your life, you have every reason to love others with the same kind of intensity and vibrance that Christ shows us every day, from common grace to everlasting life!
- It’s okay to have people you are naturally closer with, but don’t limit your friendships based on…. anything. Love God, love people. This is where you remember that ALL human beings are created in the image of God, and are therefore so precious to Him. Share His value of humanity with any humans you meet.
- When you say, “How are you?”, mean it and ask follow up questions that reflect your attentiveness. There is a teacher at the school I’m subbing at who asks me this each time I see her, and it always surprises me how much sincerity and warmth is in her voice, as well as how she always looks straight at me when she asks. I want to be more like that.
- Overcome the “social norm” and immaturity of us 20-somethings by making friends with the new people at your work/group/neighborhood. Bake some cookies, listen to someone’s story, and follow up with them outside of whatever activity/place you meet them at. As a person in a new place, I am realizing how valuable those friendly people in my life have been, and how often they are NOT in my age group. I think it’s a mark of maturity. Being this way is a conscious choice at first, but it can easily become habit over time.
- Enjoy your life! Be excited about getting mail, having clean laundry, singing loudly to the radio, eating a favorite treat, getting starbucks, finding that movie you wanted in the $5 bin, and being super goofy with your spouse/friends/anyone else who is happy to be alive. Just be thankful and don’t overlook the small things that make you smile 🙂
- Notice the good things about people and store away details about them to bring up in conversation as it applies. This is a trick I’ve adopted from my grandmother. She doesn’t have one of those super-gushy mushy personalities that fawns over people/things, but she always picks out good qualities in people and tells them so or mentions them when she speaks of others. Additionally, I noticed she would store away details about Chris I’d mention in passing and ask him about them later (things like his interest in wines, details about grad. school etc.). It makes people feel good to be noticed, and you don’t have to go over the top with your compliments to encourage others.
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